Hey Friend,
So today is going to be a little bit different than the regular blog post. We are going to talk about the 14-day challenge which will be held in our Facebook group. The challenge is titled Don’t believe the lies you tell yourself. 14 days is the amount of time it is said to take to start a new habit. This post is going to be explaining the challenge and what we will do!
First, I’m sure you don’t consider yourself a liar, but I do believe you tell yourself lies. Have you ever said, I am fat? He can do it better than I can? I will never be as good as she is? Or any other variation of those things? If so, you are lying to yourself and it has got to stop!!!
We take the things that we say to ourselves and act as if they are the truth, without even questioning them. Everything we say to ourselves isn’t benefiting us either. It’s time that we take a closer look at our self-talk more specifically the lies.
With friends like yourself who needs enemies?
You likely wouldn’t allow your worst enemies to talk to you, like you talk to yourself. Why is that? I say to you, with friends like yourself who needs enemies? You have to live with yourself for the rest of your life friend. You might as well be a friend to yourself!
When you tell yourself a lie, you must follow it up with that’s not true because…..
Then you list everything that makes you think, what you are saying to yourself is inaccurate. Try to come up with at least 3 reasons why it is inaccurate.
Let’s go through some examples:
Example #1
You are fat
That’s inaccurate because…
-You have called yourself fat in the past, when you were not. (side note: Have you ever looked at an old picture and thought you would kill to be that size? However, when you were that size you didn’t appreciate it?).
-you are not a good judge of your weight/size
-You pick apart every detail of your body
Example #2
He can do it better than you can
That’s not true because
-You haven’t really tried or given it a fair shot
-You don’t know how much work he has done behind the scenes or how you would measure up if you did the same amount of work
-You have different talents that he doesn’t have
– Only you can bring yourself and your personality to the table!
Example # 3
You have really done it this time
That’s not true because
-You can always bounce back from this.
-You probably won’t make this mistake again.
-You can use this as a learning experience and it will make me stronger.
I believe so strongly in this concept because the reality is, what you say to yourself matters. If you can believe in yourself, it can change your world. Marie Forleo says “the most powerful words in the universe are the words you say to yourself.” You have the ability to change the way you think about yourself, but you just have to focus and keep trying. It will not be easy and it will require some thought but I know you will come out talking to yourself better at the end of the 21 days. In the very least, you will start to question the lies you are telling yourself, which is huge. What is it they say? Admitting you have a problem is the first step (wink wink).
In order for this challenge to work you are going to have to be a little bit vulnerable. That can be tough, but the whole group will be going through it with you. If you can’t think of a reason the lie is inaccurate, then pose it to the group. I am not the guru here; I will be going through it just like you. I am counting on everyone to chime in! I also want you to realize, if you don’t reject the lies and call them out for what they are (LIES) then the lies will continue to happen.
I encourage you to keep a little notebook with you during these 21 days so you don’t forget the lies you are telling yourself. More importantly I don’t want you to forget why those lies are not true. If you say some of those lies to yourself often, then you could review the actual truth (the 3 reasons you wrote down as to why the lie wasn’t true) every day. I believe this exercise will be so powerful for you and it will change the way you talk to yourself.
I am sooo excited for this challenge and so passionate about it, because I think it will be a total game changer for you.
Get ready because beginning next Monday, May 20th we will start this challenge. I cannot wait!
Marie
P.S. Today: Join the challenge, don’t believe the lies you tell yourself, and be your own best friend!
You can join by going to this link, and entering your email address.